Thursday, October 21, 2010

Just Because...

Just because we blog about diabetes, doesn't mean we have it all under control.

Just because we don't share with you about a horrible "high" or "low" or "rollercoaster" day, doesn't mean that it doesn't happen sometimes.

Just because we brush off a comment made about how "bad" our diabetes is, doesn't mean that living with diabetes isn't bad.

Just because we act like we feel fine, doesn't mean we do.

Just because we eat what we want, doesn't mean that we eat what we want all the time.

Just because we work a job, doesn't mean that diabetes doesn't get in the way sometimes.

Just because we have healthy babies, doesn't mean it was easy.

Just because we live mostly complication free, doesn't mean that we didn't work hard for it.

Just because we are an "advocate," doesn't mean we are invincible.

Just because we prepare for everything, doesn't mean we're always prepared.

Just because we act brave, doesn't mean we're never scared.

And just because we do everything "right" doesn't mean that bad things don't happen. Sometimes with no explanation at all.


Yesterday, the world lost another child to diabetes. This one didn't leave this world because her parents withheld insulin, or because she didn't properly take care of herself. Eilish left this world, and her loving family, at 13 years old because of "dead-in-bed" syndrome. It's when you do everything right, and it just isn't enough. She went to bed happy and healthy. And didn't wake up in the morning.

This one hits closer to home than any other diabetes related death that I've ever dealt with. Not because I knew Eilish, or her family. But because this wasn't a case of neglect or a mistake. This was a case of total chance. The worst case scenario of a high or low that can't be explained.


For Eilish, and the mother, father, and sister she has left behind, I send my prayers and thoughts. For everyone else I say hug your family and friends. Tell them you love them. Live life to the fullest. Take chances. Play safe. And remember that life isn't when it starts or ends....it's what you do in the middle that makes all the difference.

21 comments:

Nicole said...

beautiful!!

Rachael said...

What a wonderful post and so well said! Thank you!

Vivian said...

I love you sis. This was wonderful. Thank you for writing it and sharing your thoughts.

amylia said...

Damn it, you made me cry! Thank you for posting on this. I was unaware. xoxoxo---hugs to you--I live alone and despite never having a low that struck me so hard I had to call the medics or couldn't control it, I always wonder when the gig is up. Sad, sad, sad.

It's the fear we all live with but hate to put into words. Thank you for doing that for us.

((hugs))

amylia

Sherry said...

Beautiful. Thank you for writing this.

Michael Hoskins said...

This one does hit hard, and everytime I stop drenching myself in distracting work deadlines, I find my eyes tearing up as I read more and feel and worry more. But somehow, just knowing that I'm not alone and feeling this way, makes it somehow "better." Your post is beautifully written, though it's unfortunate it had to be written in the first place. Thanks, Cara.

Scully said...

Thank you, this was lovely Cara.

Karen said...

What an amazing post. And it reminds me that now is the perfect time to tell you how much I cherish our friendship. Thank you for being such a wonderful friend to me!

Jamie said...

A truly beautiful post.

My favorite is "Just because we act brave, doesn't mean we're never scared."

George said...

That was beautiful and so very true.

(I missed this post yesterday and my post today is almost in the same format. We reflect in the same way. Birds of a feather I guess!)

Annie said...

I agree, this one is much more difficult than others I've heard of. The innocence of it makes it all the more painful.

Anonymous said...

my biggest fear for my husband and son...

k2 said...

Cara -
Not only is this a beautiful post - it's one of the best you've ever written!
Thank you so much for writing it!!
kelly k

Julie said...

I have been thinking about them a ton too. We all live with that pit in our stomach everyday of what if. I have leaned on Mel in the CWD chat at the midnight hour. I am sending all my love their way thanks for the post.

Peace,
Julie mom of three, Jack 6 dxd at three.

Wendy said...

This post is a beautiful tribute. Incredibly heartbreaking for those of us on this side of Glory.

surfnsand1 said...

wow....thank you for that.
You sum it up so well.....


Sandy (Mum of Abby, 18, d'xd @ 7, MDI...control not great)

sajabla said...

You expressed this beautifully, Cara. I haven't posted on this yet because I have no idea how to put what I'm feeling into words. Thanks for helping.

Anonymous said...

Well Said

Alexis of Justices Misbehaving Pancreas said...

such a beautiful post and every word so true. Ty for writing this c.

Anonymous said...

Beautifully written, and very affecting. This is so artfully done.

~Suzanne~ said...

This post says so many things I wish people knew about diabetes, and my life with it.

Just because we put on a strong face, doesn't mean we are never weak and afraid.